<![CDATA[Forward Motion 411 - Campus Life]]>Wed, 02 Mar 2016 02:31:24 -0800Weebly<![CDATA[Campus Rape: Read It On The Bathroom Wall]]>Wed, 04 Jun 2014 01:54:49 GMThttp://www.forwardmotion411.com/campus-life/campus-rape-read-it-on-the-bathroom-wallColumbia students report rapists on the bathroom wall.
The bathroom wall is so cliché. Most usually viewed as a cheap and easy way to identify those women who are, well, cheap and easy and rendered private by rules of membership (i.e., male vs. female). The good old boys easily leave clues regarding the women in their midst.  Who is easy? How do you contact her? Since the 1950s, males have used to bathroom wall to communicate important information to each other regarding the opposite sex. And now somebody has pushed back.

Rapes and sexual assaults continue to happen on campuses throughout the United States. Yet perpetrators are still afforded privacy while their victims are run through a gamut of insinuations, distrust, and ultimate non-action.  The women of Columbia University, in an effort to make public the names of potentially dangerous men who studied, ate, and partied with them, appropriated this mode of communication to finally serve the purposes of women. They wrote the names of a few men who were responsible for sexual assaults on the bathroom wall. The administration discovered this valorous attempt to inform other women of potential danger and deployed a crack team of janitors to assiduously scrub away all evidence.  Students have never seen the administration act so quickly and decisively on any campus-related issue.  No janitors were seen entering the men’s restrooms to do the same. 

Rules were, predictably, cited regarding the impropriety of destroying property via the writing on of walls. Threats were made. Flyers were also made. If one can’t write the message on the wall of a women’s bathroom, surely a flyer or two would do no harm and be tolerated. Not so!  The same team of janitorial experts worked overtime to pull down flyers as quickly as they were taped to the wall. 

The result? The names of 3 men who had been found “responsible” (i.e., guilty) of sexual assault on campus remained (mostly) hidden from the very women who could use that information to make informed decisions regarding their lives and safety. The name of one man who has been cleared of 3 separate allegations is also safely hidden from view. And those bathroom walls are extremely clean.

Facebook chat, texts, and other private forms of communication are on fire. Women want to know the names of those who are on that list. Women are hungry for information that can help them make informed decisions as they navigate the daily labyrinth of campus life.  This hunger for information is not unique to students at Columbia. Check out this article about sexual assault/rape at Stanford

As in any culture in which important issues are rendered opaque to the very people who have a legitimate public interest in the information, rumors abound. The conversations at Columbia were driven underground, but they are still occurring.  
  • Most women have been able to obtain the name of the man who was accused of impropriety (to say the very least) on 3 separate occasions with 3 separate women. Armed with his name, they can decide for themselves if he is someone with whom they want to date, socialize, or trust. It will hopefully be more difficult for him to hide his reputation.
  • One campus newspaper will no longer be subject to subtle (and sometimes) blatant manipulations by an editor who had successfully hidden his own sexual assault history (yes, he had been found to be responsible for an assault but was assured confidentiality) and had used his position to attempt to influence and sway opinions.  He was relieved of his responsibilities at the paper – not because he had been found to have assaulted a woman but because he had used his power and influence as an editor to protect his own interests and to work to further protect his undisclosed identity.
  • The other two men whose names appeared on the list were absent from campus (from our best guesses).  It’s not really clear if we have all 4 men or if we found a few additional ones.
  • One of those men insists he was engaged in consensual sex and was played by a system that is playing a dangerous and inconsistent game that robs people of due process and fundamental rights. His lawsuit is filed and his case is moving forward.  
  • The final man named on the list is a only a name – he is currently not enrolled in school yet no one we contacted could tell us how long his suspension was to last. 

Transparency is important when it comes to a close-knit campus. It’s important to know the names of those who have been found guilty so that the university doesn’t inadvertently protect a predator while exposing potential victims who are mindfully rendered unaware. It’s important for women to hear stories of how the assaults occur so they can best protect themselves from being the next victim. Understanding how verified assaults took place (e.g., the approach of the predator) is valuable information and the reason why newspapers across the nation tell the stories of assaults, murders, robberies, etc. Yes, the University has an interest in minimizing attention paid to the bad things that happen on campus and yes, those who are working through the process of being the accused or the victim may need special rights to privacy.  However, once the assault has been affirmed, it seems to be the responsible approach to unveil the situation and provide students with crucial information. How much information? As much information as would be released by the media if that person were convicted in the real world; the criminal justice system.

Colleges are crying that FERPA precludes them from sharing this information. We respectfully disagree.  And if that is shown to be the case, all colleges should stop taking and investigating campus assaults. All sexual assaults and rapes should be referred to the police and treated like the crimes they are. Colleges should be relieved of their duties as quasi-policemen/mini-courts.  This may be the only way to stop what appears to be the protection of rapists and sexual abusers on campuses across America.

<![CDATA[Think Again, Freshman 15!]]>Sun, 24 Nov 2013 02:21:42 GMThttp://www.forwardmotion411.com/campus-life/think-again-freshman-15Picture
You’re in college and it’s way more fun than you imagined!  College is a time of intense work and extreme play. Suddenly you’re in charge of making decisions that you parents have been making for you up until now; and some of the consequences can be hard on a body. Your body.  What can you do to ensure your freshman year doesn’t leave you fat, unhappy, and sleep deprived? 

The Freshman 15 is a running joke (no pun intended) but sometimes it’s more like the Freshman 40. If you find yourself packing on some weight, don’t take it for granted that it’s inevitable and don’t fear it’s some other terrible malady. Google unexplained weight gain and you’ll see why thousands of parents are telling funny Freshman stories about their child calling home to say goodbye because of suspected thyroid malfunction, diabetes, or brain tumors. Don’t be that Freshman. Realize you’ve most likely made some lifestyle changes and a little research, coupled with self-discipline, can help get you back to your original weight and into your favorite jeans. 

The 5 lifestyle choices attributed to causing weight gain in college are:
  1. Change in Diet – College cafeterias offer high carb foods because they’re cheap and easy (like that betch who stole your boyfriend). You might have to go on the defense and make a concerted effort to pick up (and eat) more vegetables than meat or pasta. Mom isn’t there to ensure you have adequate nutrition anymore so you need to do it. Ask her for some help if you skipped that nutrition class. Internalize that voice that says, “Don’t drink soda with every meal” and “Eat your vegetables.”  Scope out your friends and eat with those that make healthier choices – rumor has it that you'll start eating what your peers eat and it’s often a race to the bottom.  And remember to drink 8 cups of water every day.
  2. Alcohol – Speaking of drinking, if you’re drinking you are taking many more calories than your body needs. And you’re drinking them so they go down fast ( like that betch who stole your boyfriend)! And a night of drinking often leads to a midnight raid at the local burger joint – more unnecessary calories. All of these calories are consumed at night. Studies indicate your body metabolizes calories differently at night than they do in the daytime so all of this partying adds up fast. (No, this is not building a case for day drinking).  In fact, this builds a good case against college drinking: but if you choose to drink and still need to lose your new-found weight, consider drinking 2 glasses of water for every alcoholic drink or drinking less often. A lot of girls change to Skinny Girl brand alcohol – but they usually don’t report weight loss.
  3. Sleep Deprivation – Between study, work, play, and scamming on your new crush there isn’t a lot of time left for sleep. If bedtime is typically at 2 a.m. you aren’t getting adequate sleep; even if you sleep in every day. Sleep deprivation is one of the most serious problems you can have in college. It can  lower your grades, render you helpless in the face of all those diseases you will encounter, stress you out, and make you fat.  If you don’t change anything else, change this. People who go to bed after midnight on a regular basis gain weight. Go to bed.
  4. Distress – Stress can actually be a healthy motivator for you; it’s distress that creates all the havoc. You’re adjusting to a lot: you’re living away from home, having to juggle work and play, eating differently, trying to find friends, mad about your stolen boyfriend, and buried in homework. It takes time to learn to manage all of this so take heart and know you will prevail.  In the meantime, you’re suffering. When you’re distressed, your body increases production of the hormone,Cortisol.  Cortisol encourages your body to store more fat as it prepares you for the hard time ahead. A lot of distressed people also eat high fat or sugar laden foods for comfort - more calories.  You need to find ways to decrease your distress as well as learning how to manage it minus the stress eating. This is no easy task but can be done. Talk to your parents or your Health Center for tips and suggestions. Go to the campus gym and work it, enroll in a yoga class, get some sleep, schedule in some fun time, and get some support. Everyone wants you to succeed.
  5. Depression – If you’re truly overwhelmed or feel paralyzed with sadness, you may be experiencing Situational Depression. The bad news is it sucks and alcohol can make it worse. The good news is a lot of students experience situational depression of some type – homesickness, anxiety, the blues, stressed and sad – those are a few and overcome it when they learn to adjust. Depressed people tend to get fat.  Only you can take that first step to overcoming depression – talk to someone. We suggest the person who you have historically (hysterically?) turned to when you had problems in the past. Whether that’s a parent, a friend, or an old teacher reach out and talk about how you’re feeling. If you don’t feel you have anyone, head to the Health Center and talk to the nice people there.  Yes, it’s true that you have a lot on your plate and no one can really fix that, but talking about it will help you sort it all out and allows your support person to look for ways to make life better for you. Some additional helps could be St. John’s Wort (sounds silly but try it before you judge), targeted help like a tutor or the writing lab, extra weekends home where you can be pampered and cared for, or happy surprises. Given a chance, your support person will try to make your life easier or at least lend some support.  But no one can help until you take that first step of reaching out.
Enjoy your Freshman year and don’t be the next Fatty, Fatty Two By Four.  Now go steal your boyfriend back. 

<![CDATA[College Girl Problems]]>Sun, 24 Nov 2013 00:51:19 GMThttp://www.forwardmotion411.com/campus-life/college-girl-problemsCollege can come with genital pain, eczema, and yeast infections
College is great!  You’re having a lot of fun but you might be having a few unexpected visitors. Your body issues range from eczema to itching and burning in awkward places you’d rather not talk about. What can be done? Knowing a little bit about that stuff now might save you some future worry, pain, or anxiety and help you avoid some awkward moments.

Skin Conditions: Whether you’re moving across town or across the nation, your dorm may feel like foreign territory. The cooling/heating system may dry out your skin, leaving you with eczema or mild acne.  If either of these happens to you, head to your college’s Health Services Center and they can help you out. Also consider how the water may be affecting your body. Water can be very different from state to state. It’s all safe to drink but it might throw your body off kilter while you get used to different chemicals, ph levels, the degree of hardness, etc.  If you suspect the water is messing with your skin or digestive system, consider getting a jug of Spring water from the local grocery store and see if that helps.

Fire In Australia: Another environmental change is your toilet paper. It may sound silly but it won’t leave you laughing for long if you find yourself with a nasty rash from the toilet paper. A lot of recycled toilet paper (which colleges love to use because it’s economical and makes them sound oh so green) is allowed to contain treated paper (for example, that heat sensitive paper that cash registers often use) to which you might have a sensitivity.  If it’s not your heart that’s on fire – you might need to consider purchasing your own toilet paper. This is actually pretty common. Don’t let it freak you out. Common complaints are severe burning, itching, or feeling like you have a million paper cuts.  Everyone tells you that any trouble down there in, umm, Australia is most likely a Sexually Transmitted Disease. If you check it out on the internet you’ll find tons of girls confused because they fear they’ve contracted an STD even though they’ve never had sex (or have been careful).  Calm down and remember to think about the toilet paper first. These rashes can be horrible and may last as long as 2-3 months so switch up your toilet paper the minute things seem to be going south...down south.  Scrubbing and shaving may actually agitate the condition so don’t go overboard.  Try some diaper ointment (seriously) for instant relief from the itchiness, an ice bag for pain and swelling (awkward but such a relief if you have some privacy somewhere), and some Neosporin to kill bacteria. Of course, if you are sexually active you might need to visit the Health Services Center just to rule out any real STD problems.

Urinary Tract Infections (UTI):  If you've ever gone to the bathroom and felt some burning or finished urinating but felt like you had to sit around and wait for more, you probably have a urinary tract infection. Females are more likely to get these because we have shorter urethras than males. Drinking cranberry juice will often clear this up in a day or two, so give it a try. If it doesn't do the trick, head to the Health Services Center for some medicine.

Yeast Infections and such:  Some females never get a yeast infection, ever. Others get them all the time. And a few start getting them in college. Yeast infections seem to be a fact of life if you’re prone to them. Symptoms are typically reported to be severe itchiness and thick white to yellow discharge.  (If you have a yellow-to-green discharge that is smelly, you can't treat this on your own; it's most likely gardnerella.) Your local pharmacy is stocked with Monistat (and other antifungal creams) over-the-counter to help you get rid of yeast infections. The Monistat link will take you to a coupon that will save you money! You may get relief by eating yogurt with activate cultures. The Health Services Center can again be your friend if you have gardnerella or recurring yeast infections.

Brazilians and Other Configurations: Cosmo says you’re supposed to shave or wax down there. If you buy into that sort of thing, be aware that ingrown hairs and zits are likely inevitable.  Ingrown hairs have sent many a coed screaming to the Health Center fearing she is infected with Herpes when it was just her body complaining about that wax.  

<![CDATA[Colleges Where You’re Most Likely To Get An STD]]>Fri, 08 Nov 2013 20:54:37 GMThttp://www.forwardmotion411.com/campus-life/colleges-where-youre-most-likely-to-get-an-stdPicture
You’ve all heard about them. You don’t want one. You don’t wish one on anyone (well, maybe on that one person you really hate – but not a bad one).  A Sexually Transmitted Disease is not a sign that you’re a ho.  But if you get one and anybody finds out – you’ll feel like one.  An STD can be ever-lasting (like genital warts), silent and sinister (like chlamydia), or just plain nasty (like gonorrhea). They are humiliating, time consuming, sometimes painful, and never ever any fun. And if you get one, you have to tell the people you may have spread it to – so your little black book may get even littler. College is a time when you are at higher risk for getting an STD because, let’s face it, if you stuff a lot of young adults into dorms and classrooms, they might have sex. 

Contrary to popular belief, getting an STD doesn’t mean you are sexually overactive. Lots of people who have several partners a year (or month) never get an STD. It’s not like God’s punishment for you having sex - no matter what your Sunday School teacher told you. You can get an STD with your first encounter just as easily as if it your 101st encounter. The two factors that impact the probability of you being The One are; 1) whether your sexual partner has an STD, and 2) whether you used a condom. These are the only two variables that factor into it. The condom makers at Trojan partnered up with Sperling's Best Places to create a ranking colleges in terms of sexual health for 2013. And the report is out!

Schools With The Best Sexual Health:

1. Princeton University

2. Columbia University

3. University of Arizona

4. University of Iowa (Top 20 Party School)

5. Brown University

6. University of Illinois (Top 20 Party School)

7. Rutgers University  (Top 20 Party School)

8. The University of Texas At Austin

9. University of Denver

10. University of Wisconsin  (Top 20 Party School)

Schools with the Worst Sexual Health:

1.   Brigham Young University*

2.   Chicago State University

3.   Providence College*

4.   Troy State College

5.   University of New Orleans

6.   Louisiana Tech

7.   Savannah State University

8.    Seton Hall University*

9.    St. John’s University – New York*

10.  University of Louisiana at Lafayette

Schools with an asterisk (*) by their name indicate the school has a religious affiliation that may affect their place in this ranking. How? Schools with religious affiliations may not make contraceptives available to students and/or may not provide information or support for sexual health.

Before you get too excited upon seeing your favorite university on the bad list, remember that Sexual Health is graded, for the purpose of this ranking, on 11 variables including Student Health Center availability, sexual health information and resources available to students on websites, availability/cost of contraceptives – including condoms, cost and availability of STD testing for students (including HIV testing), sexual assault practices and services, lectures and outreach groups for sexual health education.  

Did you notice that none of the top schools for partying (as determined by the Daily Beast) appear on the Worst list and none of the colleges with religious affiliations appear on the Best list?  Draw your own conclusions about the study.

<![CDATA[5 Ways To Stay Healthy In College]]>Wed, 02 Oct 2013 00:52:14 GMThttp://www.forwardmotion411.com/campus-life/5-ways-to-stay-healthy-in-collegePicture
College is a time to have fun, learn a lot, play a lot, make new friends, and seek out opportunities. How are you supposed to do that if you’re down and out with the flu?  You can’t. Here are 5 tips to keep you healthy and happy while you enjoy your college years.

  1. Wash Your Hands.  Your grandma was right. Washing your hands before you eat and while you’re in the bathroom will keep you from inadvertently infecting yourself with bacteria and germs.  When you go to a restaurant, excuse yourself from the table to freshen up before your food arrives.  Freshen up before you hit the cafeteria, too.  Keeping your hands clean can keep you from getting mono, the flu, and myriad tummy problems.
  2. Are Their Hands Washed?  Part of the fun of going out with friends is finding those sketchy restaurants with surprisingly delicious food.  Some of your best stories may come from your experiences in these noble food establishments. Before you order your meal, however, check out the restroom (while you freshen up, of course) and see if it looks like the employees are keeping it clean. Does the hot and cold water work? Is there soap? Is the restroom reasonably clean? Food poisoning and Hepatitis are both a drag (and your vaccines only work for Hepatitis A and B) – you don’t want to deal with them if you don’t have to. Speaking of Hepatitis C, you can get it sharing needles (this includes getting a tat), sex with an infected partner, or even sharing toothbrushes or razors with an infected roomie.
  3. Don’t Forget Your Veggies.  The cafeteria is filled with all sorts of good smelling, mediocre food. While you struggle to eat those entrées made for you with such loving apathy, don’t forget to pick up tons of vegetables. Your plate should be at least half filled with fruits and vegetables…and then you do have to eat them if you want the benefits of the vitamins and minerals they are holding. Not only will this tip keep you healthy, it can keep you from putting on the Freshman 15 (or the Senior 30) everyone is talking about.
  4. Go To Sleep, Derp.  Sleep is still important; even though there are way too many fun things to do in addition to all that homework they keep piling on. Just remember that you still need to get your sleep. Everyone needs differing amounts of sleep – you have an idea of how much sleep you need to be at the top of your game. If you find yourself using Adderall and Red Bull to get your homework done, you are doing this wrong and need to rethink your game. 
  5. Stay On Top Of Your Homework.  You probably can’t remain drama-free if you have friends or roommates but you can keep your stress levels low by doing your homework. Turning in late assignments is stressful, facing your professor when you haven’t completed your assignments is stressful, facing your angry parents when discussing your poor grades is stressful – so don’t do this to yourself. A poorly written assignment turned in on time usually receives a better grade than a well written assignment turned in late.  Better yet, turn in a well written assignment and get that A.

BONUS:  For girls only. Don’t use that gross recycled toilet paper supplied for you in the public bathrooms around the school. They often include heat sensitive paper (and other stuff that is absolutely not friendly to “Australia”) and can leave you miserable down there forever.

<![CDATA[Awkward - But You Need To Read This (Girls Only)]]>Thu, 27 Jun 2013 00:31:24 GMThttp://www.forwardmotion411.com/campus-life/awkward-but-you-need-to-read-this-girls-onlyPicture
After a visit to a friend in a dorm, I found myself suffering from a really weird problem “down there"  (aka Australia).  It was itchy, but sure didn’t seem like a yeast infection.  It was very painful – and strangely was located in the more forward sections of Australia than mid-country. Despite the swelling and the insane feeling of paper cuts, I suffered through and diagnosed myself as having a Urinary Tract Infection (UTI) because there was definitely pain on urination. Definitely. I bought myself a bunch of cranberry juice to treat it and was surprised that it took a little over 2 weeks for everything to get back to normal. Whew.

Then I went to visit my friend again. In her dorm.  I used the restroom and omg! I could feel that pain coming back. I mentioned this when I went back into her dorm room and our other friend (who had come with me); saying I thought her bathroom was somehow giving me a yeast infection or some other nasty thing. Friend #3 took me aside and told me she was having the same problem every time we came for a college visit.

It was the recycled toilet paper!

While living through the pain of the second bout, I went to the doctor who first suggested I might have an STD and wanted to test me for everything.  I reminded him that I’m not having sex so he gave up on that route. I suggested it might be the recycled toilet paper, which he dismissed out of hand and diagnosed me with a case of vulvodynia. This is a condition causing vulvar pain that can last for months, or even year. He wanted to put me on an antidepressant to fix it?!?!  I said no thank you and went home to Google my pain.  My research indicated vulvodynia can be treated with interferon, biofeedback (to teach a woman to relax), surgery, or laser surgery.  I could quickly see where the medical profession was planning to take me.  OMG!

It was the toilet paper for sure (yes, I stupidly and scientifically tried it a third time). I didn’t need to be frightened by suggestions of STDs or even handed a prescription. But it left me wondering – how many girls are heading to college, using the toilet paper, heading to the doctor to be misdiagnosed, and spending the next few years in needless pain?

The take aways from this tale? 
  • If you’re going to college and having similar pain – quit using that recycled toilet paper they put in your dorm. 
  • Doctors don’t always know what is happening to your body as well as you do.
  • Oh, and also, not everything is an STD if you happen to be sexually active. 

<![CDATA[4 Tips For A Successful Dorm Life]]>Tue, 14 May 2013 05:29:21 GMThttp://www.forwardmotion411.com/campus-life/4-tips-for-a-successful-dorm-lifePicture
One of the biggest adjustments in moving away to college is learning to live with people who aren't your family. You've probably become really comfortable with them and have your own set of rules (e.g., proper noise, quiet times, bed time, clothing level, cleaning schedule).  Moving away from home means making  your own environment; creating a life with a group of strangers who have their own ideas of what a good home environment is like. This can be a great experience or one of the worst ones you'll have and you know you want it to be great! Here are some tips to make the most of it so you don't end up like this guy

4 Tips To Help You Avoid the Doom Dorm

  1. Set Expectations: My school has a policy that requires all roommates (and suitemates) to create written agreements regarding what they expect from each other. This creates discussions about length of time it’s ok for dishes to sit unwashed, what the policy is on no pants, and if the toilet lid must be down or up. Having them written down and posted in a public area can serve as a friendly reminder for when college life gets a little hectic and people's manners start to slide.
  2. Do Your Part to Uphold the Agreement: It's really easy to get busy with your new schedules and you're probably going to have a different grasp of time management than you did in high school. The downside to this situation is that often the part of your life you neglect is things you think you can get away with and for some reason the neglect often gets doled out to things that affect everyone. Leaving your dishes for two weeks is not cool and neither is clogging the shower drain with your hair monster. Think of how annoying it is to go to clean your dishes and find yourself wading through three day old coffee and dishes that look like a mixture of burnt cheese and red sauce. Have common courtesy, even when you're exhausted/stressed/inebriated.
  3. Build Your Community: In order to make friends with everyone in your suite or on your floor, you need to have have get-togethers that are fun and relaxing. One of my favorite activities of my freshman year was our suite brunches.These required organization and initiative. If my friend and suitemate, Martha Scott, hadn't made the effort to get everyone to sign up and show up, they never would have happened! We all made food, invited friends, and had a great time. It's important to make traditions- they'll hold you together (or give you a chance to get to know each other). My old suite still gets together for brunch and I always think back to how much fun they were last year. If you don't have a kitchen you can plan activities as simple as getting a meal together in the dining hall, working out together (if you're fitness buffs), making a monthly grocery trip, or just having a movie night once in awhile. Cooking together is a sure way to get to know someone and it can be something simple, like making amazing German Lace cookies. Or if you're feeling fancy, try your hand at Chicken Alabam. The important thing is to have some friendly fun.

  4. If a Community Isn't Feasible, at Least Make Your Dorm a Comfortable Environment. It's entirely possible that you will live in a suite or floor full of people with whom you just don't click. While this is unfortunate, try to focus on your commonalities rather than your differences. Be polite to everyone so you're at least comfortable saying "Hi" as there are few worse things than having a home in which you don't feel comfortable. Creating a toxic environment won't just punish your suitemates, it will make your home a place where you don't want to be. Even if it's simply a smile or a polite inquiry about their day, put forth the effort to make a welcoming and friendly place for everyone who lives there. You won't be best friends with everyone you live with; but that doesn't mean you have to be enemies either. 

<![CDATA[Sleep Science to the Rescue-Why Sleep Cycles Matter. ]]>Mon, 29 Apr 2013 03:19:00 GMThttp://www.forwardmotion411.com/campus-life/sleep-science-to-the-rescue-why-sleep-cycles-matterPicture
You know how important it is to get sleep.  You hear it from everyone; your parents, the internet, and even that one irritating classmate who (you’re pretty sure) is a robot.  That’s wonderful and all - you've read all of the science so you understand that sleep truly is important.  If you’re really up-to-date on sleep studies you may have even read about how researchers have conducted experiments that confirm a correlation between cases of ADHD and sleep deprivation. 

However, the fact remains you are in college.  You have numerous classes and every professor seems to believe their class is your only class.  You have to balance the demands of your professors with the demands of all the other important people in your life: your roommates, your boss, your family, and your significant other.  There literally are not enough hours in the day to do everything you need to, and there never seems to be time to do the things you want to.  Those retro postcards saying “I can only please one person a day and today I choose me” are adorable, but make you a little sad because it hasn’t been your turn for a couple of weeks at least.

With all of these demands, you keep finding sleep coming in last on your to-do list.  However you find yourself having to choose between staying awake in class or staying awake to finish yet another essay.  Even worse, you start to crave sleep more than a night out with your friends or even date night. Come of your friends do adderall and some swear by Red Bull or other energy drinks, but those just aren't for you. You need some help with this sleep issue and you need it fast.

 Luckily, sleep science is actually coming to the rescue this time!  Scientists have found that you will stay awake and more alert if you wake up between sleep cycles, even if you go to bed later.  There's an excellent website, called sleepyti.me, that helps you calculate your bedtime in order to be able to wake up between sleep cycles.  For example, if you need to be awake at 7:30 AM your optimal bedtime would be 10:30 PM because you would wake up between sleep cycles and get a glorious 9 hours of sleep.  However you could also go to bed at 12:00 AM, 1:30 AM or 3:00 AM and still wake up between sleep cycles. Those waking 1.5-3.5 hours you conserve by staying up until midnight or 3:00 am mean that you can put a huge dent in your homework.

Ensuring that you will wake up between sleep cycles means that you’ll be able to stay up all day and all night and maybe, just maybe, you’ll be able to find some time to do a couple of things just for fun.

<![CDATA[The Best Advice I Got While In College]]>Sat, 13 Apr 2013 16:30:47 GMThttp://www.forwardmotion411.com/campus-life/the-best-advice-i-got-while-in-collegePicture
1.  Don’t be with anyone who makes you feel bad about yourself.  Don’t be best friends with them, don’t sleep with them, don’t try to prove you’re not who they think they are.  Live your life far away from them and don’t let them be a part of it.

2.   You’re not too young.  You’re not too young to have good ideas, to make good choices, to know what love feels like, to do whatever you want to. 

Bonus: You are young enough that if you screw it up and fail, you’ll still have time to try again

3.  Be nice to people.  You are officially too old to be petty. It’s neither endearing or really even acceptable. You are old enough to say hello and politely excuse yourself from a conversation if someone irritates you or is rude to your face.

4.  Talk to everyone.  Life is all about options, knowing what is out there, knowing what is going on, and learning different ways you can do things.  People are interesting but you won’t know their stories until you’ve talked to them. They’re always happy to talk about the things you’ve done and will usually give you insights on life and how to succeed at everything from throwing a party to entering the business world.   

5.  Be that person who has something nice to say about everyone.  It’s easier to be that person who makes hilarious jokes at others expense; but nobody trusts that person.  Nobody thinks, “Ah, yes, that is the person I want as my (vice-president, partner, coworker, etc.).”  Your job is to make the people you care for look good. Everyone wants to be with someone who they can be trusted to have their back.

6.  Crying in front of people is okay.  Everyone does it and sometimes seeing you cry makes people like you more - makes you seem more human.  Sometimes it makes you look weak.  Most of the time, it’s not as big a deal as you think it is.

7.  Your college years will be the most awful and the most wonderful years of your life.  Your life is more unstable now than it probably ever will be again.  You don’t know what your major should be, who your real friends are, who you’re going to marry, where you’re going to work, or if you’ll even get a job when you graduate. So relax and have a little fun before it’s over.

8.  Drinking too much isn’t cute and it never was.  Going shot to shot may make you seem cool for the moment, but ten minutes later when you’re puking, crying, or accosting a stranger you seem significantly less cool.

9.  Being single is not the same as being alone.  As cliché as it sounds, the most important person to have is yourself. You will survive your break-ups and you will fall in love with someone else.  Plus you always have friends, family, and the option of a pet.

10.  Success is fun.  As much fun as it is to party all night, every night with your friends or to see every televised football game of the season, it’s even more fun to get the highest score in the class and accepted to the grad school or awesome job of your choice.  Remember to balance your long term and short term goals: work hard, play smart.  

11.  Fun is fun, too. Getting involved in clubs and causes (both on and off campus) gives you a chance to meet a lot of interesting people and have fun. Pick ones that really interest you and you’ll probably find people with similar passions and interests.  Try it, you’ll be surprised.

<![CDATA[Sexiled - College and Your Sex Life]]>Sun, 31 Mar 2013 17:16:53 GMThttp://www.forwardmotion411.com/campus-life/sexiled-college-and-your-sex-lifePicture
It seems a lot of people decide to have sex when they’re at college.  Go figure. Maybe this is the first time they can actually “get a room” but once they get there their roommate has beat them to the sock on the door. Sexiled again.

Sex and the roommate may create a lot of issues and can leave you unable to do your homework at critical times. Once you and your new dorm mate have settled in, picked your beds, and learned each other’s names you might want to talk about setting ground rules for your room. It’s easier to discuss it now before anything, well, comes up. There are lots of awkward scenarios that may cause future drama if you don’t deal with this issue before the fact.

Discuss whether it’s acceptable to sexile each other; if yes is the universal sign of the sock on the door sufficient or should it be something else? Do you view sex as something so wrong to you that you really just need your roomie to find another place for these activities?  Is it okay to wake up in the middle of the night to, ummm, the siren sounds of them – doing it? Are you allowed to watch since you’re being forced to listen or do you make wake up noises to make it stop? These and other questions are good to ask before the fact.

You may as well know which schools have been identified by Playboy as those best known for having the best student sex lives:
1) University of North Carolina;
2) New York University;
3) Georgetown
4) UCLA;
5) Yale University; and 
6) Syracuse University.

"Omg", you say, "I wanted to go to Yale but not if there is a continuous sex fest!" Where are the safest places for you to attend school?

Well, that depends on how you’re defining safe. Is safe defined as a school with a well-defined goal of making school a place where no means no (i.e., charges of rape are taken seriously) and yes means you have access to condoms and health services? Or is safe defined as schools where there is reportedly not a lot of sex going on?

A survey by Sperling’s 2012 Sexual Health Report Card and Trojan (yes, the condom company – who do you think is interested in the sex lives of students?) lists top schools that provide the best environment for sexual health are:
1) University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign
2) Brown University
3) Columbia University
4) Princeton University
5) University of Wisconsin – Madison
6) Yale
7) University of Arizona
8) University of Iowa
9) Colorado State University; and 
10) Oregon State University

According to a Playboy survey, the schools with the least amount of sex happening at school are:
1) U.S. Air Force Academy
2) Brigham Young University
3) Providence College
4) Troy State University
5) Chicago State University
6) University of New Orleans;
7) St. John’s University of New York
8) Louisiana Tech University
9) Savannah State University; and 
10) Seton Hall University.
Please note, this doesn’t conclusively mean the students aren’t getting sexually involved. It’s saying they may be abstaining from sex or just aren’t admitting to it.